In these cases, the guys would make the same request: And in these cases, the guys came back, sometimes weeks after, sometimes years after, saying they’d made mistakes.
That they didn’t appreciate what I had to offer or the ways in which I’m different from most women.
By Judith Silverstein, Michael Lasky You get what you pay for in life, Internet-dating sites included.
Unlike free sites, with pay sites you don’t have the headache of endless advertising messages screaming in your face.
For you instant-gratification types, you probably won’t find your life partner after paying for one month on an Internet dating site. Even paying for less than six months is probably too short of a time, and it’ll rush you into being an urgent dater, which isn’t a good dater to be. When you give a credit-card authorization for payment for your first subscription period, you’ll probably be authorizing the site to automatically renew your subscription in perpetuity, possibly well beyond your eventual marriage and death.
If you pay for six months (or even a year) and find your dream mate on Day 2, consider yourself the luckiest person on earth and money very well spent. Even if you pay for an entire year, don’t expect to use the site every week or every month. So if you sign up for six months, at some point you may be debited another six-month charge without warning.
The guys were always surprised, even though the only box checked on what I was interested in was “long-term relationship.” So did I want to date a guy who says that he’s never been in love (even though he’s divorced), who says I’m obviously lying to myself about wanting long-term when I don’t like living with people, who says the twenty minute drive to me was too much for something real.