Commitment phobes have problems committing to anything, not just relationships.
They’re the people who are always late because they resent having to be somewhere at a certain time. They don’t pay bills until they’re sent threatening letters. Whether it’s taking out a mortgage or contributing to the deposit for a group holiday with friends, they just can’t bring themselves to say, ‘I do.’Like most things, there’s a sliding scale with commitment phobia.
Commitment phobes often become really defensive and argumentative if you take control of a situation because they like being the ones in control.
If they’re in control, they can control their emotions and they can’t get hurt.
In these arrangements, you’ll notice that when one side starts to stray, the other side will undermine them.